| It's all about me me me me me |
[Jul. 14th, 2009|11:09 am] |
Someone was saying the other day how they wished the entire loli community wasn't quite so fucked up. Weird clothes attract weird minds I guess XD
talking to Charlie and Louise and some others who have been on the other side of depression, and had friendships with depressed people break down, or strain, and being able to view myself back then in a healthy state of mind now makes me realise just how horrible depression is.
It's a terrible debilitating illness but it's also an awfully selfish one.
Depression is normally triggered by real life problems at the time - it can be something seemingly small like being lonely or not having a job, but they're real issues. Combine that with the inability to move some days, a cotton wool blanket of apathy, a vicious streak of self hatred and you get one big hot mess.
Perpetually feeling this way, even mildly on the better days leads to inward thinking and dwelling on your problems, exacerbating the situation. It starts to get to the point where you feel angry at people for talking about their petty issues when yours are so much worse, resenting the people who are meant to love you for having fun and leaving you when you're falling and begining to think that people should make exceptions for you, or give you more attention then anyone else, especcially in those rare times when you're feeling fine.
You begin to feel that complements are owed, not earned, reading ridiculous meanings into harmless comments and focusing hatred and resentment on one or two people because everything they say or do seems like an attack on you. Doesn't matter if they're trying to help, or they'd rather have you know the truth then people bitching about you behind your back - you don't see that, you just see someone trying to cut you down.
Ridiculous I know but funnily enough it all seems perfectly reasonable at the time.
I hate this horrible, selfish disease. I hate what it does to people and who they become. It's easier said then done saying don't put to much on your friends and loved ones but depressed people will lose friends because of the depression, and friends shouldn't have to put up with the demands. Even those that lose the battle completely, no matter how they felt at the time, it's not the fault of the people around them. At the end of the day, the only one who can save you is yourself. |
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| rorita wantz |
[Jul. 13th, 2009|10:42 pm] |
I need this
in my life.
It's expensive, matches nothing I own and is a very unusual thing for me to like but I love it. Glorious retro chocolate, yum yum yum.
Closet Child is full of rare brand - and cheap! I needs to get me to Japan, or at least enlist a shopping service when I have more money. Many wants.
Also, I'm doing a taobao order very soon - 10% commission and no paypal fees - who wants in?
I want to set up a US postal address to avoid fees from Baby and buy things from US only stores. Unfortunately they're all goody goody and won't mark down prices when they consolidate shipping. I wonder if any US lolis would be willing to rent out their address and time to earn a few bucks? Hmmm |
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[Jul. 13th, 2009|11:26 am] |
Yesterday was Charlotte and Charlie's birthday picnic which was actually great fun, despite Dave being there. I just ignored him and so did the majority of my friends who hadn't met him before so there was no drama for which I am eternally thankful.
Still upsets me though.
I don't do the ex bashing thing. I'm friends with everyone (apart from Dave) who I've dated, I loved and still love everyone I've ever kissed whether it was a gloriously beautiful female friend for fun, a foolish moment of passion or someone with whom I shared a year or more of my life with. I can't imagine kissing, let alone sleeping with or dating someone with who I was not friends with first.
I hate it when people talk so badly about people they previously dated, or people their partners previously dated. You spent a portion of your life with that person, you grew with them and watched them grow, you shared happy memories and experiences with them - why would you hate them? Even though things ended, there's no reason to deny the love that was there.
I have no problem with the people who came before me unless they're still there and causing problems for me. Dom's ex in Hong Kong recently moved to London and we're both friends with her, Dom's hung out with and made friends with my ex boyfriends and loves. I have even less problem with those who come after me - I may regret things didn't work out but you are my friend, someone I passionately loved - why on earth wouldn't I want you to be happy? And why would I have any reason to want to deny someone else something I no longer had or wanted? Does not compute. Besides, whatever animosity and history that lies between myself and an ex partner is hardly the fault of the girl now dating him.
Dave's a nice person. I wouldn't have dated him otherwise. I wouldn't have spent a year of my life with someone who wasn't a nice person. We shared a great deal of things in common - an excited love for fine food and wine, a passion for films, a shared taste in music. We shared so much and got on so well - by all rights we should be friends still.
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| Last chance!!! |
[Jul. 9th, 2009|05:27 pm] |
Last chance for tomorrow night as I'm going to get Dom to book the restaurant tonight.
Meeting at 6.45 at Leicester square station and going to the cineworld at the troc to see 'Blood: the Last Vampire'. The film starts at 7.15 and I'm not booking tickets before hand as they charge a whopping 0.60p booking fee per ticket. Shouldn't be all sold out, I hope 0_0 but please be on time!!! if you're unable to meet at leicester square/want to get to the cinema on your own that's fine but let me know in advance as there's no signal down there.
Oh yeah tickets are £9.80 per person
Dinner at 9.00
I'm cancelling pub/drinks as 2 things are going to be quite expensive and so far the list looks like
Kat
Me
Dom
Jessica (+1?)
Seran
Lin
It doesn't make much sense for Seran and Lin to troop all the way back to the house of lol as we'll probably finish dinner at 11 which means they're unlikely to manage to catch their last train if they come back with us. We can all have some drinks to celebrate though, and I think Aggie and Lucy will be there :D
Also Charlie and Charlotte's birthday picnic on Sunday!! Don't forget! You have to come to it for them!!! (and me... ha ha :( |
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| Robot Roll Call |
[Jul. 8th, 2009|02:51 pm] |
Okay People: This Friday is Kat's (you met her at the strawberry tea - American with blue hair, so don't be daft) Birthday! Whoo!
I'm sure she's turning some irritatingly fun and young age, but we won't hold that against her :p
EDIT:
1. Seeing 'Blood, the last vampire' at the Cineworld at the Troc. I think this is the best place as you don't have specified seats so we can all sit together and don't have to book them at the same time. It might be a good idea to book in advance though?
Film is at 7.15 as far as I can establish! This will be the best time for working peeps.
2. BUT means Eating delicious spicy sichuan food at 'Red and Hot' won't be until 9 :( If you're coming let me know ASAP as I'll have to get Dom to ring up and book it
Yum Yum Yum. There are non spicy alternatives if you don't like spice.
Kat do you want a la carte or hotpot?
EDIT the second! - since this will already be expensive and it's a Friday - back to the house of lol for drinks?
So yes, come (for all or any part of it), wish her Happy Birthday, and comment x |
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[Jul. 6th, 2009|10:33 pm] |
WARNING: This entry has ALL the emtocons. Plus, it probably doesn't make any sense XD
Back from Paris! IT TWAS MAMAZING! A big fat mneh nehh :p to all that didn't go XD
I haven't really slept - 2 hours last night, brief doze on Eurostar and brief doze today when I fell asleep reading my book, and I haven't really eaten in days - one meal a day since thursday but other than that I'm happily back in the house of lol
Friday: SHOPPING TIEM! You can't (unless of course you're one of those lucky lovely people that's been before and or to Japan) understand how wonderful it is to shop at the actual brands, even though they're only tiny stores :DDDDD
There was Atelier Pierrot, Angelic Pretty, Putumayo, Sexy Dinamite London, Metamorphose (who didn't even have sign up, come on Meta!), and Black Peace Now. Maki and Asuka were at the AP store :)
I think I was kinda pushy as this was HUGGGE con (8-10x MGM?)but I wanted to actually go to Babyas I knew we wouldn't have another chance (seeing the con could wait!) we left quite quick and went to Baby :DDDDD As we got there a load of staff were coming out of the shop with big boxes of clothes for the fashion show followed by Baby Models including Misako Aoki who walked right past us :D
We then went on to Boddywood but passed by the cafe where the Baby tea party was going on and looked through the window, not realising we were stood right next to Akinori Isobe and his wife who commented on mine and Lucy's dresses XD
Lucy managed to spill a whole bottle of the darkest purple nail polish all over my favourite (and white) shoes so I wore a piratey outfit that I wasn't happy with :( I wanted to go into Baby in Rose Candle but never mind...
I bought:
*BONNET! All black WIRED bonnet which was in the sale in the Baby shop. You do not know how happy this made me. ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) lowly_concubine - Bonnet twins Y/N?
*Pink sparkly cake socks like lucy's also from the Baby store. The shop assistant must have thought I was a freak for buying the least matching items ever. I have nothing loli to wear them with but they make me very happy.
*Atelier Pierrot headbow in black. It's beautiful and the designer(?????) was so lovely and pretty and gave me a free huge bag for my tiny headbow. They had a beautiful high waisted skirt with a gorgeous gold print that was gone when I came back half an hour or less later. I should have bought it because looking at their site it wasn't much (if any) more than in store but €150 was the majority of my budget. Yes, I am still in my goth phase. Goth goth black, yum yum yum
*AP plastic ring. I though I was buying one in pink and black but when I got it into the light I realised it wasn't black at all but leopard print which is gloriously obnoxious. I shall wear it with non loli.
*Meta blouse, neckbow and socks for a mere €30 because they were stained. I thought it was a makeup stain on the collar but looking at them they've been worn and that's sweat - yuck. I'll try to wash it but I might just list them on the sales comm for the same money - it's not much and someone might like some cheapo brand
Saturday: Fashion show!
The fashion show wasn't until 1pm but a combination of us all being utterly hopeless, the trains being down and a HUGE-ASS queue meant we had to run straight there. I hadn't drunk anything that day and nearly collapsed in the line - FAIL. Stupid recessive genes and ridiculous amounts of photo-sensitivity - I really am the liquid snake of the loli kingdom.
The fashion show was so good though! I was really angry at myself for getting ill coz I thought I'd miss it but Amy came to the rescue with her bottle of water. I'm a silly fan girl coz I was nearly in tears the whole way through because it made me so happy XD I liked how Baby was last and got the biggest cheer.
Kanon Wakeshima also played a couple of songs :D She's so pretty!
I finally got to meet addictive_sugar :) She's so lovely <3 Mightly jealous of her fluency in 3 languages though :p
Ada was also there looking mighty pretty in Hime Lolita
Got some pictures taken with Maki and Asuka - or was it just one of them? I don't remember. I was all gothed up in moitie and BONNET so they were probably surprised. Also with Misako Aoki but my eyes are closed and it's a fail pic ;_;
Bought:
Kanon Wakeshima CD
Puppet Circus postcard which Maki and Asuka signed and another one for Aggie.
Maki and Asuka were so cute <3 They're normal normal people for all the OH EM GEE untouchable fangirling on ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/community.gif) egl After Maki signed my postcards Asuka ran up, grabbed Maki by the hand and pulled her along as she was climbing into her shoes and they both ran hand in hand upto the BPN stall because one of the members of Plastic Tree was there too. It was literally the cutest thing I've ever seen <3 See? They're just fan girls too :p
Sunday: We went to the Baby store again to take katabulous and also meet emiru who is lovely :D I need to buy one (more like two) of her amazing wigs from her. White for goth, pink for OTT sweet. But yeah, Baby was closed ;_; shame.
We went to the Expo and did a bit more shopping.
Bought:
*Pink and red pompom cutsew from Meta for a mere €15. I want the red and pink carousel skirt to go with it.
*Lots of postcards - some Imai Kira and a lot of Alice and Wonderland. Want that, and that, and that. I have quite a few postcards now adding the puppet circus and the free brand ones. I need to get some tiny frames for them all.
*tiny alice in wonderland brooch
Then we saw the Kanon Wakeshima concert :D Emily, me and Lin managed to get to the 3rd/4th row :D
Oh yes: PONY! Lucy bought a plush my little pony that had been decorated at a japanese decoden stall on Friday and Maki spotted it on the Saturday and went "PONY! ponyponypony pony! XD Because of this she asked her to sign it on Sunday because it is the Maki Pony. She got really excited and was like "wait wait wait" and got out a keychain or something with a picture of the same my little pony. Awww, bless you Maki. |
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| legal music? |
[Jun. 25th, 2009|04:46 pm] |
Hold on to life/
Hold on, despite this/
I've seen your eyes shine/
Just get through the night this time
I've just bought my very first MP3 download - Child Proof by Queen Adreena. I heartily recommend this track, It's very 'nice' if you've been put off with the shouty screemy rahh music XD and as stupid as this sounds, repeating that chorus on my ipod over and over kept me sane in China :D |
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| People are wonderful :D |
[Jun. 23rd, 2009|11:15 pm] |
They really are!
I posted my webshop opening announcement to EGL (http://community.livejournal.com/egl/13646083.html)
Look! new acrylic jewellery - shiny :D
People are so sweet, and the chandeliers are really going down well
I got my first webshop order where someone ordered $116 worth of stuff after discount
I had a wonderful person offer to do free web design and graphics
I had another wonderful person offer to try and figure out the slow down
It all went horribly wrong and for some bizarre unknown reason people in the US couldn't check out
The same wonderful person spent like an hour on msn with me figuring out what was wrong and going through my coding and finally got it fixed. then she managed to sort out my welcome message that was causing me trouble
Then someone else, I'd already figured out what was wrong by this point it was a silly little thing but still, told me what was causing the slow down
OH and I'm going to have an article about me and my jewellery on the opening issue of the daily frill
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| Spare bed available for the Paris Expo! |
[Jun. 15th, 2009|06:34 pm] |
Guys! Paris! Room available!
Awesome location (Le Chapelle, North Paris, a minute from the the gard du nord, 15 minutes from the expo and 20 from charles du gualle airpor)
Awesome price (£82 for 4 nights)
2 Rooms - Me, Lucy, Lucy's sister, Amy, Lindsey.
Come!!! |
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| (no subject) |
[Jun. 11th, 2009|04:44 pm] |
Well I was watching this talk show the other day
And on it there was this guy and he was saying
When you let other people tell you what's right
When you leave your instinct and your own truth behind he said
That's a virus of the mind. That's a virus of the mind
I guess it's kind of like losing your sight; for a
Second you think that they might be right, and it
Feeds the doubts you have inside, and it
Almost starts to feel like a crime
To follow your own rhythm and rhyme
Yeah I'm pretty happy living in my own sweet time I'm pretty happy
And I don't need your virus of the mind
Well I went to this party thing last night
A lot of people I hadn't seen in a long time
And they wanted to know about my life,
But making me feel like it wasn't quite right
Like where's your kids and where's your car?
I said I don't have either but I have a guitar
And I ended up feeling like I was a freak
So I found some wine and something to eat
And I talked to a dog to pass the time
Told myself I'm doing fine,
It's just a virus of the mind
It's just a virus of the mind
Yeah I'm pretty happy living in my own sweet time I'm pretty happy
And I don't need your virus of the mind
A friend messaged me about a friend of hers wanting to do a group exhibition, if everything goes ahead then yes, I'll be doing a show for 2 weeks :D
I'm finally beginning to feel proud and happy about myself, like that I should feel ashamed or that I'm lying when I cite my occupation as artist or designer. I run my own company, am talented and skilled and have even (albeit, not well I'll admit) modelled. I'm beginning to feel like all the doubts and put downs I placed on my life were enforced by other people, not me.
I may not have a great deal of money but I have no debts (not even student loan), enough money to go out and pay the rent (even if it's a stretch sometimes), I have a wardrobe worth thousands of pounds and the experience of living in another country for a year. I am learning two languages and can understand full sentences in four (obviously not including English :p) I'd count myself in a far more lucky position then someone who goes to work everyday to somewhere they hate.
It's like in 'Starlight' - "I'm not a shopboy, I'm just working in a shop"
Well I'm not an administrator - i'm just temping in administration. It's degrading doing the jobs I do because I find things like that so easy, but there are many many intelligent people who find similar jobs challenging or certainly not 'easy' so I should be proud of myself. It's not that I'm working in dead end, easy jobs - I'm so good at the various aspects of normal jobs that I find them easy. I guess that's a hard thing to overcome.
Its fine if you value money over happiness, it's fine to place different priorities on your life and ambitions but I don't want to feel like I'm wasting any time - I want to shine as hard as I possibly can and explode in a burning ball of bright light not shimmer dimly for twice the years more before finally burning out. |
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| News! |
[Jun. 1st, 2009|11:59 pm] |
Exciting news at that!
*London Expo: Made £700 quid! 0_0 Whoop whoop whoop! peoples loves my stuff :D Also it seemed to be of great consensus that it was grossly underpriced, which is nice.
Also made some great contacts :D
*Regalia (Brighton lolita shop) is going to start stocking my jewellery! This is MAMAZING and makes me feel like I have a real business at last
*Web shop is up! Though it needs more things added to it and web design tweeking. But I got it up by the date I said despite every thing that was happening so I'm proud :)
also - I'm getting Moitie! Black and blue chandelier skirt and socks :DDDDDD It's a long winded and complicated way to get them but :DDDDDDDD I think it shall be my bday present from my Mum and Dad |
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| House of Lol Warming/Birthday |
[Apr. 23rd, 2009|11:23 am] |
For those of you that haven't seen it on facebook (did it even work??? I hate new stalkbook)
HOUSE OF LOL WARMING! (And Kyra's early 23rd)
Saturday 16th May (weekend before the expo)
3/4PM for cakes and tea for frilly people
8PM for booze
Sorry younger-than-18-year-olds I used to drink at 16 too but I'm gonna have to say that please come for cake but you're going to have to leave before the evening shinanagans ;_; Dom and Aggie are worried about underage drinking if anything was to happen and I can understand, seeing that their these weird foreigner types XD
Plenty of room to stay (I hope!) |
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| Mmmmm duvvuddds |
[Apr. 12th, 2009|10:41 pm] |
I have just spent £20 (including postage) on 7 films from 4 different retailers
*Chungking Express - I watched this for my film studies A level but it's become one of my favourite films. A two part fiction on it's own but on a deeper level it's a discussion of the future of Hong Kong, just before it was given back to China. Also Woo! woo! Andy Lau!
*Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind - Another of my favourite films. Charlie Kauffman is love in my film geek eyes and Michel Gondry is a far better director than Spike Jonze. Also one of the few films that I can stand Jim Carrey in - I hate slapstick and he has a terrible habit of of over acting. He's not a bad actor but it took me until watching The Cable Guy and Man on the Moon to realise this.
*The Last Hero in China - Dom and I are big fans of the Wong Fei Hung series of films (Once upon a time in China) partly because they're just plain amazing films, partly because young Jet Li is very cute, partly because they're set where I used to live and partly because the martial art is tai chi (yes that slow exercise that old ladies do in the park on a sunday morning) which is awesome. ANYWAY this is a film which I watched during my lunch break and always thought was one of the OUATIC series but I have all the ones Jet Li did and it's not there. Turns out is a comedic one off. Yay!
*Zatoichi - shockingly violent and very funny at the same time without you laughing at the violence. I <3 Beat Takashi. Beat Takashi is cool.
*Trilogy Of The Dead - Coz I just don't have enough Zombies in my DVD collection :p It's okay that I already own Night of the living dead because this version is the rehash, but the main one I wanted was Dawn of the Dead. The remake was a steaming pile of running zombie poo, this is the ultimate feel good zombie movie. |
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| The Wuchan Drama... |
[Mar. 25th, 2009|11:28 am] |
I tried not to but I just had to comment on this...
loli 'troll' sniper_nyan who infested getoffegl with her ~*edgy*~ racist and right wing opinions in sock puppet form because "If people know these opinions are mine then they won't buy my crap anymore!!!111" ;_; BAWWWW. We're lolitas, when has ethics and morals ever stood in the way of rare brand? has been found out to be non other than
DUN DUN DUN
wuchan!
Wait, who? That's right, though sniper_nyan claimed to be a well known, e-famous, walking loli god, in reality she's a pretty much unheard of lolita who sews and sells crap shit and cannot coordinate.
She's also been posted to sf_drama numerous times for being an ~*edgy*~ anti-feminist and for thinking boys who pee standing up are animals XD That's right, she won't date men who don't pee sitting down. Imagine the first date "Excuse me, how do you pee?"
lol
She's not totally unattractive but she does need to learn to wash her hair before photos (that's some greasy shit!) and coordinate a basic outfit. The amount she's been laughed at in [Bad username: whatiwhoretoday2] is not even funny. This girl who said true lolitas don't have split ends (how much have you fried your hair?), posted someone for having their FOOT in a photograph, and posted some poor chick for having greasy hair (when they'd just come out of the shower) is pretty damn fail.
Poor little over-privileged white girl :( My parents could only afford to go on holiday to Europe (She's in the US) so they could send me to private school. *sniff* I bet a hug and some real life friends would do her the world of good.
Not only that but there's rumour/evidence that sniperchan is also none other than lost_kite; an actually e-famous 'troll' with equally ~*edgy*~ opinions. Cue much squealing in sf_drama that lol kite is okay with microwaving kittens and will write 3 pages arguing why it is not wrong to do so but likes running around in frilly dresses like a demented child in his spare time XD
I reckon that wuchan and lol kite are dating in rl. I'm sure if some one snooped enough there'll be a pweeze can I haz MSN plz comment between the two of them somewhere. It makes the most sense as wuchan and lol kite write differently and have argued over the nets before, people are still convinced lol kite is a guy (though lesbian lovers works fine for me) it would explain the amount of IP addresses and WHY WHY would you use a famous sockpuppet to randomly come into getoffegl to make lame attempts at defending your arse?
Either that or she's a total nut job with split personality disorder who's put in extensive measures to cover her sock puppets (but can't even use a proxy?) |
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| EDIT! WE HAS PLAN |
[Mar. 18th, 2009|06:39 pm] |
EDIT:
It has been decided - next weekend (saturday 28th)
11am YES A.M. YOU LAZY ARSES! meet at South Kensington tube station (by the ticket barrier because it branches into tunnels) This time should allow for inevitable lateness (Shh you didn't hear that! 11 o clock, 11!)
Invade the V & A, locate their 'sackler centre' and hog their computers whilst donning digital hats! woot
Head off to one of those £5 all you can eat places (we can do bad Chinese (or bad Indian if there are no fussy people) once in a while!)
Eat NOM NOM NOM
Go back to the house of lol to get ready for LUCY'S CLUBBING TRIP OF FUN! Since we're already in London it will happen this time!
Drink our pub full of booze
go to club
Bring clothes you want to go clubbing in. This does not need to be a difficult or heavy task
You're welcome to stay the night in the house of lol
Over 18s for the latter part please! Unfortunately half of my housemates are these crazy foreigner types who could very well get deported if anything was to happen :(
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There was talk of going to the V&A hat exhibition for next months TPC but how about this instead? we can still do a TPC meet but lolis paying money and booking in advance is often troublesome!
Hats Off to Fashion
Saturday 28 March
10.30–16.30
Digital Studio, Sackler Centre
Get your photo taken and then virtually try on a selection of hats from the exhibition Hats: An Anthology by Stephen Jones. See what you look like as a Samurai warrior or a 1950s society queen.
Free, drop-in
DIGITAL DRESS UP! |
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[Mar. 10th, 2009|01:42 pm] |
Instead of responding to everyone:
It's not quite as exciting as all that - sorry to have misled! Here's the email:
Tea Party Club - Press Query
Hello Kyra,
I write for the national Guardian newspaper and I am researching the idea of writing a piece about tea parties to coincide with the
release of the new alice in wonderland film next year.
Could you tell me a bit about how your tea party club works? do members sign up and arrange to organise an event?
is it ever held in houses, or only tea cafes and restaurants? is there a range of men and women, and ages- when it comes to the members?
how is the cost organised? how did the idea come about? when did the club start and how many members do you have?
sorry for all the questions, but I just need to be sure of everything to inform my editor, because
she might want me to come down and attend one of the events.
She's just researching the idea of something for next year so there's no guarantee the article will go ahead or we'll be in it so calm down the rl fame excitement! If she does end up coming to a meetup I would presume there would be pictures and interview
I'm still mighty chuffed! |
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[Mar. 10th, 2009|11:06 am] |
I only just got an email from the fucking Guardian about the Tea Party Club! That's right, a writer for my newspaper of choice is emailing me about my baby for a piece she's doing on the Tim Burton Alice in Wonderland film, and may even attend a meet 0_0
Proud Kyra is Proud |
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[Mar. 8th, 2009|09:57 pm] |
I has fringe!
http://community.livejournal.com/daily_lolita/1509785.html?#cutid1
I forced Aggie to cut me one against her will on Friday while Dom was asleep XD Though Seran didn't even notice :(
I also have many pretty things on their way or have arrived :D
 Boots! Photo yoinked from Pear who I bought them from :D
In it now - so cute! Very costumey since it's polyester but not bad for £11 XD
Matching:
skirt
beret
coat
:D
:D
OH EMM GEE FAKE RARE BURANDO! soo cute!
and matching capelet!
Yay! |
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| Five things meme |
[Feb. 28th, 2009|01:28 am] |
1. Cardiff
Cardiff is where I lived in my last year of uni. I actually had a crap year that year and lived with crap-ass people that caused drama but:
I lived in dirty sanchez's old house! There was a scary cellar with a penticle painted on the wall!
It had an amazing bathroom! It was huge, covered in wooden panelling and had stairs that led up to a big sunken enamel bath with further steps going up to a shower cubicle. You could have two people baths with bubbles and wine and chocolate XD
Cardiff is an amazing city :)
I recommend:
*Zushi - Like Yo!Sushi but like a million times better
*Garlands tea room (trump loi and delicious homemade food)
*Cardiff Castle
*Roath park (cheap cheap rowing boat hire, and a man that sells a million flavours of icecream like white chocolate and honeycomb yum yum yum)
*The arcades! Victorian arcades full of cool indipendant shops selling vintage clothes, goth shoes, fairies, delis, cafes, and BUTTONS!
*Chapter art gallery - art cinema, gallery, amazing cheap food (yum yum bambi's mum tortellini for a fiver) and rasberry beer
*The wetherspoons toilets! Seriously. There are 4 main wetherspoon each with the most amazing places to pee! The one nearest me had doors that let into a room with a massive sofa and mirrors and then there was a massive glass door, a long, marble/mosaic clad corridor with dark wood cubicles and sinks on the sides leading up to an f*ing fountain with a mirror behind! The Prince of Wales (nearest to the train station) also was an old brothel/dancehall/theatre thing that still had a stage and everything
*Cardiff bay - lovely restaurants and summer hang out place
I also lived round the corner from a japanese food shop and could buy moochi frozen in big packets :D and a chinese that sold egg fried rice, a dish of some sort and sweet and sour chicken balls for £5! Lasted me two days!
OH and Metros!!! It got a bit crap but free hot buttered toast at 3am, bubble and foam machine, and wednesdays had 80p double and mixers! (went up to 99p 0_0) and alternative music
Drink was so much cheaper in Wales. I nearly died one time i went home for the holidays and bought a pint for a friend that cost £3!
2. furry animals
I've had furry animals of somesort since I was 10 :)
The first were two gerbils that Ailsa bought back from school named speedy and jamiroquai. We over fed them and they seriously looked like Jerry in Tom and Jerry after he swallowed an orange. They were also terrible escape artists! They tended to escape in the middle of the night and mum had to take us to school and then get home and spend half the day chasing gerbils! They got in the toy cupboard, the piano (it never sounded the same afterwards) and chewed everything!
The next was a hamster called scruffy. He managed to escape out the pet-in-the-box before we drove home from the pet shop!
He was cool and ran around the hallway when I closed all the doors and would run up and down the stairs but always come back and check you were still there and climb all the way up your body, sit on your shoulder and give you a peck on the cheek <3
He also bit. a lot. I was watching the TV with him out one day and kept blocking him from escaping with my leg. He wanted to escape so bit my big toe hard to distract me and waddled off! I love how hamsters run, they wiggle their bottoms!
The last was called Houdini, named after a kids book called 'I houdini, the story of a self educated hamster' He lived up to his name! I got him in Cardiff when I was lonely :)
I left him with my parents when I was in China and they gave him away!;_; They left him with the son of someone Dad worked with when they came to visit me and they loved him so much they let him keep him! Everyone says that he died but my parents would just tell me, plus I looked after him once when I came back :)
Unfortunately he's since passed away :(
3. The house of Lol
The house of lol is just the beginning. There will be house of lol, then commune of lol with more than 3 lolis in one house, then island of lol in Hong Kong and then finally the country of lol. Then we'll have a very short lived invasion of the world and get wiped out and then laughed at in history books. It'll be great.
4. Your journey into loli
Don't really know what to say about this one, plus I'm tired.
I lol therefore I am.
5. Blonde hair
Blonde hair has become my identity because I'm considered an adult now and am not allowed pink hair (grumble grumble). It started when I got fed up of pink hairdye that would not fade, bleached it, had neon peach hair (colour of fruit salad sweets!) for a few months and then bleached the hell out of it. I was the only blonde at goth nights and refused to dye it black even when people told me how good I looked when I wore black wigs.
Then when I went to China, blonde hair was considered amazing and strange and lucky. I couldn't blend in and was praised, insulted, spat at, given preferential treatment, got invited to weddings, had old ladies touch my hair, had randoms chat to me and buy me presents and take me out to lunch, jeered and called out to purely because of my ethnicity. The blonde hair made me stand out even more. all the dark haired female foreigners that I knew had had their bag either taken or attempted to be taken from them by people on motorbikes coming up behind. I never did.
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[Feb. 27th, 2009|11:58 pm] |
I got my luckypack today! And my baby skirt! w00t w00t w00t
I got the dress I wanted! In cream! I know everyone got the same JSK but I was convinced I would get the OP or a completely different skirt
I also got a long sleeved teeshirt which is really thick and good quality but I'm not sure if I want to keep it
a cardie which is much nicer than the other ones I've seen people get but again not sure I want it. it kinda drowns me and is pretty much my primark jumper with a cool badge
and an awesome pin!
EDIT!
and socks! That don't match anything!
I'll be wearing it tomorrow!!! Plus, I tried on my tiny tiny tiny vintage edwardian spats again and got them on! They look so cool XD I also will be wearing them if I can get something brown in town in the morning to tie them in
and I got my skirt too which is gorgeous :)
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[Nov. 3rd, 2008|11:27 pm] |
My bodyline order arrived in the biggest box known to man this morning 0_0
Seriously, I could place it in central london and rent it out as a luxury flat or something...
The coat is uhhh, special. It's thick, warm, scratchy nasty feeling but luckly lined so that's not a problem and smells. It also could well be titled Over adornment 4. I've dubbed it the bunny sack dress due to the length and largeness of it. I'm going to pin up the bottom so it's shorter and not quite so crap covered (lace, different lace, ruffle, fur, lace) and also pin in/tack in/chop off the lace on the sleeves. Even then it'll be still a bit much for me I think :( Silly me just plunged into the overwhelming cuteness that is sweet lolita without testing the waters of tastefulness first
Fakes parlour on the otherhand is glorious! Thick material, perfectly dyed pink cotton lace (I bought black x pink skirt) built in netting aqnd sparkling lemons. can't fault sparkling lemons.
the fake putumayo lesson bag is
a) lovely and b) big enough for my laptop but annoyingly has enough D rings to do the cute backpack thing but only came with one shoulder strap - anyone know where I can find bag straps?
Things bought to sell should be here by the end of the week too - I'll put them up here for you guys first x |
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[Oct. 30th, 2008|08:22 pm] |
Looks what I bought!
http://item.rakuten.co.jp/bodyline/g696/
So cute! I wanted the all black cat coat as well but as it never got to the international site and is now gone from the Japanese one I guess it sold out really fast ;_;
Anyone wanting anything from bodyline should order tonight or tomorrow because they've cottoned on to the exchange rates and are adjusting them on saturday, and a $100/10,000 yen coat is really NOT the equivalent of £50
Also bought the infamous fruits parlour skirt, the replica of Becky's putumayo bag and a black cutsew to make the £40 ;_; postage worth it!
Lolz bodyline. I sent than an email yesterday I think asking if they were going to put the two coats on the international site and they replied with the words 'ok' XD that's all!
( Duck of the Day ) |
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[Sep. 29th, 2008|08:39 pm] |
Tim Burton
Alice in Wonderland
Johnny Depp as the mad hatter
Oh yes
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[Sep. 19th, 2008|11:37 pm] |
Moar bodyline!
It's a stupid psuedo sale this time but:
Cheaper than Primark!
The IW bag! ^______^
Yep, the same shoes I had in China (close enough). Hopefully these will fit better (There was only one size in china and it was just that little bit too small) The heel on these makes me a little wet downstairs...
The same blouse I got before but in white (my black one is serious love). The white blouse I bought last time around is craparooney. yes it has detachable sleeves but cream lace on a white shirt? wtf.
AatP type headjobby
2 of your English pounds? Don't mind if I do!
It doesn't work for everything (I.e anything $5 ends up as £3) but it's much cheaper buying things in pounds as Bodyline don't seem to have cottoned on to the fact the exchange rates have changed. Everything is worked out as half the US price with some bargains like items costing $25 are £12. Put a load of stuff in the shopping cart in USD, convert the price using an online conversion and then change the currency to pounds on the bodyline site. Seriously there was like a ten quid difference XD
My biggest boss (I have three for some reason) called me into his office today and asked if I was happy. The obvious no came up and I explained why. He's going to let my permanent staff checks get right to the end and then put them on hold before I sign the last bit. He also said wait until The DSE stuff gets going (not until Nov) coz I should have a load more work to do then and has given me charge of the apprentice association (chairing meetings, event organising etc) It's not ideal but I feel a bit happier.
I've also booked myself on some adult ed evening courses. Mandarin on Tuesdays, Japanese on Mondays (If it went through, I need to ring them on Monday) I also want to take Russian (weds) but that might be a bit of overload!
There's a art/business day course on a sat in the near future that I want to go on (marketing yourself I think) And I've booked to do a jewellery course in Jan (which unfortunately clashes with my Chinese). None of it leads to a qualification or anything but A) My brain will be working and not just doing boring and easy tasks all week and B) I get to do things during the week and won't be just living for the weekend
I have no idea what to wear tomorrow but yay! Upside down!
I've also been getting really fearful thoughts about stealth :( I LOVE the ride, it's so much fun but I hate the launching you bit and am getting scared thinking about it D: Silly silly girl
P.S to anyone who lurks on the wank comms:
GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYY |
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| Blonde debates...(it's been a while) the 'issue' of homosexuality |
[Jun. 26th, 2008|07:10 pm] |
Unless you’ve been hiding from the world this week you probably know the Heinz ‘gay mayo’ advert and the subsequent 200+ complaints it received resulting in it being withdrawn from your screens after less than a week of screening.
This advert, which you can watch here, featured two children at the breakfast table and a father getting ready for work. The children then collect their sandwiches from someone they call ‘mum’.
Shock! Horror! ‘Mum’ is actually a man in a deli outfit with a New York accent. As the father turns to leave, ‘mum’ says something along the lines of ‘aren’t you forgetting something?’ and they share a quick peck. ‘She’ then bids him goodbye with ‘love you, straight home after work sweet cheeks’
Yes. Unless you’re completely stupid you’ll have worked out that the, rather naff, premise for the advert is that Heinz’ deli mayonnaise is so good your ordinary female stay-at-home wife will make sandwiches as good as New York deli man. He’s a female character played by a man to demonstrate a point. That’s not even a gay kiss – it’s not really even much of a kiss if you ask me – but still a small but vocal part of the Great British public got its knickers in a twist.
The complaint? “It’s "offensive" and "inappropriate to see two men kissing"
and creates the difficult question of explaining to your children why that man kissed another man” - said over 200 people, making the advert one of the most complained about this year. Makes you really proud to be British doesn’t it?
It’s offensive? Everyone has a right to an opinion and to express it but to be offended when people kiss? We’ve had far worse in advertisements for many years so I’m taking a hesitant guess that it’s more the man on man aspect that’s so offensive. Surely that wo
uld be on par with being offended by a trans-racial kiss or the fact an ad showed a woman as a surgeon? “Sorry sir, Your offence can not be acknowledged due to blatant discrimination”. Why would two men kissing been more inappropriate than a guy and a girl?
As for children – the advert was shown after the watershed due to the hideous levels of fat and salt, and what would be the problem anyway? You could explain the joke of the advert or merely state the truth of the world which they probably knew anyway. As Simon Le Vans from Gaydar radio says, people – hopefully – wouldn’t complain at having the trouble of explaining inter-racial kisses to their children.
All aside, it’s a pretty hot topic at the moment with the matter of homosexuality causing large rifts in the Anglican Church. Why you’d want to be part of a religion that openly condemns you I’m not quite sure, but then and again I’m vehemently anti Christian (apologies).
So, is gay an issue?
According to today's Metro it is as the front pages claim one in five lesbians and gayshave been the victim of a hate crime or incident in the last three years with two thirds not bothering to report the crimes - a third of them because the do not think the police will do anything about it. add onto this the worldwide anglican nutters and the mayonnaise fiasco and we have a crisis of intolerance on our hands. or do we?
Yesterday's metro (guess who's a commuter?!) had an interview with a British guy who moved to America when he was young to play for the NBA. When he retired as a basketball player and wrote an autobiography he chose to come out. The interviewer asked him whether it was easier to wait until then. he replied, 'not easier but definitely safer' more damning news it would seem until you read further. His experience of living both here and in the States make him feel that Britain doesn't perceive gays to be nearly as interesting or as terrifying as in the states, and that, in my way of thinking is a good thing.
A friend of ours at uni waited all year to come out and was greeted with the response of "yeah... and?" He'd spent all year trying to remain hidden and to go on about hot female celebrities when everyone knew, and didn't care anyway. I think it was a bit of an anticlimax.
I've met some lovely people that just so happened to fuck men and some others that obsessed with making their sexuality their identity. Come on, are you really that boring that being gay is your distinguishing feature? Really? In my mind it's the same as the race card; sorry love but honestly, no matter what other's have lead you to believe, you're really not special. You're just like all the rest of us, drudging along on our wet rock of an island. Sorry to disappoint you but it's true.
Although I can't tolerate racism, sexism or homophobia and will fight it with every ounce of my strength, I can understand why people don't treat other's equally when the others in question make an effort to show that they're not the same. We all struggle to be noticed but it really doesn't make sense to fight the treat of bland obscureness by presenting an aspect that really shouldn't be an issue.
I've never had any trouble in gay bars, i've seen straight couples be happily comfortable in them; but i've also heard stories of violence with a 'gay only' attitude.
I've also made out with female friends when single, and though a few friends have gawped, no one's raised an eyebrow at it, or to the fact that every partner i've been with has been male. -sideline here, i'm not gay. Women are much more beautiful then men but there's no way i could go all the way abalone freaks me out waaaaay too much-
It's only when we can admit, that unfortunately, we're going to have to find something else to make us stand out other than race, sexuality, gender or transgender that we can overcome the few bigots and stupidly right wing fucks that still plague our society. After all, the petition against heinz for removing the ad has attracted over 2000 people, compared to the initial 200 that got it banned in the first place.
And if that doesn't reassure you, at least we're not banning adverts featuring tv chefs for wearing 'terrorist' scarves.
Oh and just for lowly_concubine
How dare this new company Heinz post this advert in the London Illustrated News
I want to see mummy in the kitchen cooking the dinner with dad at the table reading the paper and the children Julian Dick Anne and George all seated at the table with Timmy the Dog under the table - a proper family
I have just put my quill pen away after writing a strongly worded letter of complaint to Lord Northcliffe at the Daily Heil hoping they will not publish this troubling advert
I am now off to the post office with the letter and hope that it will be on the first stagecoach to London
Emma
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| Modelling for evaconcept |
[Feb. 16th, 2008|11:07 am] |
'nuff said.
Blouse is moitie, beret is off-brand and boots are from rosechocolat. Everything else is Innocent World. I like to brand mix but I was like a walking advert for innocent world that day. Oh well. |
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| Victory is mine! |
[Jan. 4th, 2008|11:08 pm] |
Boughted myself my most wanted dress! HOORAY!
linky
humorously after wanting that dress for so long it has come up twice in one day (three times if you count the black one on cc)
and also another much wanted dress 
Bad Kyra. I now have a million JSKs and not a lot else, although I do have 3 blouses and a petticoat now.
Also: I WANT SNOW DAMNIT! |
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| short and snappy |
[Nov. 22nd, 2007|10:54 pm] |
 This is wonderful and must be paired with  before it is too late. nod.
I miss wearing short skirts. I need to locate a nice short non-poofy non-straight down skirt but such things are hard to come by.
Customs charges are EEEEEEEVIL. -passionate loathing hate- I highly object to paying 50% of item cost, especially when £8/£13 goes to royal mail for unspecified reasons. GRR GRR GRR HISS GRR.
Dom and I are considering moving in with a crazy old man and a japanese sculpture student that likes buttons. Wish us luck with that one! |
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| please stop me buying on the internet :'( |
[Oct. 30th, 2007|10:56 pm] |
behold recent purchases!
 (though i still want it in red)
  (MMMMmmmm red. I love red, it's the only thing that makes me think twice against dying my hair pink again)
Annnnd there's a rare print (for quite a lot of money) on Y!Japan that no one's bidded on yet. VERY TEMPTED
at least i have more pink in my wardrobe now ;)
I'm a sucker for prints, I have only one decent light coloured blouse - which i don't like and need to sell - no lolita shoes, only 3 headresses (2 black and handmade) and i don't even own a decent petti. bad lolita! no biscuit!
plus i had to go to the dentist today which cost another £80. My mouth hurts :'( and i'll have to go back in 2 weeks and pay another 80. China is mean and cruel and nasty (ignore if you haven't heard the tooth drama)
Got the day off to go to london tomorrow for a goldsmiths open day/informal look at my work
Wish me luck! |
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| Yeah? Well Christopher Lee likes it! |
[Oct. 21st, 2007|11:03 pm] |
Yesterday dressed in my AaTP dress after yummy Chinese with Louise, Plau and John - the latter two met randomly at the con YAY! - I was walking to my train and a little girl walking behind me turned to her parents and asked:
"Is that girl a princess?"
BEST COMMENT EVER. |
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[Oct. 17th, 2007|11:01 pm] |
My IW dress arrived yesterday :D I'd got worried with the postal strikes that it'd been lost since the Japan EMS site said 'delivered' but a nice neighbour had it and took a few days to manage to bring it round. It's possibly the most beautiful thing i've ever worn and barely fits my torso which is actually kinda nice coz i'm fed up of my burando not fitting/looking better on more well endowed people.
Also got an ETC blouse which looks amazing flat but ridiculous worn - why the baggy arms? Whyyyyy? the jester like collar is not flattering either :(
I decided to check back on the IW site and is it pretty? Yes it is!
Hopefully by the time it's off reservation i'll have a spare three hundred quid (ha ha) to spend on it and the snow white dress. I'm also still loving this, this, and this
Why are they so full of win this year? Have they a new designer?
In life news, Sue's come back so my once interesting and unusal job is now dreadfully dire and tedeous and paperwork filled. What sort of company doesn't have their stock on a computer database???!!!
Only the NHS
Missing my canadian teddybear lots but actually doing worthwhile evening things now - like sorting out my jewellery and throwing away clothes. woot. Grownup life fails. |
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| Prepare to be boarded! |
[Sep. 18th, 2007|10:38 pm] |
Meta have informed me that i've reserved The pink ornament OP and socks, huzzah. Expencive huzzah but huzzah i don't have to pay for just yet so huzzah nonetheless
Just told the boy about my lolita obsession. He laughed at me but took it well and is gleefully imposing himself on the tea party club meet up with camera. ah well, decent photographer is good i guess.
oooh and it's national talk like a pirate day tomorrow. I wish i had something suitibly piratey to wear.
Arrrr arrrrr ARRRRRRRRR AVAST JOY |
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| spend thrift |
[Aug. 25th, 2007|10:40 pm] |
[IGNORE THIS POST IF YOU'VE NO IDEA WHAT I'M RABBITING ON ABOUT]
what's going on with Innocent world? I've always admired their quality but the latest reservation items are just, for lack of a more articulate word, awesome. Yes. <---Insert fan gushing here--->
The snow white story book print is wonderful and i'm also loving the crest/lion print, it's splendidly toffish :D Pity the cut isn't as much my style as some of the other things they've done. And now they've just released an alice in wonderland tartan which is better then last years (which i coveted greatly)
In the normal section the crown print is everything meta's wasn't and the other alice is deliciously reminiscent of Emily Temple Cute, another of my favourite brands.
I'm going to put a pre-order in for two pairs of the alice socks to match my ETC jsk and the new OP i've just bought which seems a bit silly. Anyone want to join me in a group order? (pre-order only)
I'm also probably going to (at least to try) to buy bloomers to match my OP on Y!Japan. And i seriously have my eye on an alice/chess baby jsk which is unfortunately black (my whole wardrobe is going to be A+W... i can't resist!) AND my favourite jsk (the pirates one) is on Yahoo at a decent price, though rubbishly in pink.
I should be buying more necessary items like a decent blouse or a moite headress (once you've held one, nothing else can compare) or doing some non lolita saving. It doesn't help suddenly having access to 2 grand. $$$$!
The boy doesn't know about my incredibly silly hobby yet but didn't seem to object too much when i expressed a want of the girl's baby dress that we stalked on the HK MTR.
STOP ME BUYING! (or at least arrange meet ups so i can half convince myself it's worth while) Heh, at least i have an artistic licence to permit me to be weird, though looking 15 in jeans is just going to make me child porn in loli. |
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| Blonde debates open marriage |
[Jun. 19th, 2007|09:30 am] |
An entry on the ever wonderful bad_sex and some recent discussion has got me thinking. The woman wrote how the wife of her bf had walked in on them having kinky BDSM sex (open marriage but it’s not something you want to come home from work to) and then wrote a post saying how the wife knew about her and how they were getting divorced anyway and blah de blah. There is no need to justify yourself to anyone, especially the interwebs, because people – like me – are going to judge you anyway.
( I think I should quickly say a few thoughts about marriage since LJ ate the post on that months ago )
Now before you think I’m getting preachy and Christian and prudish I’m not completely against the idea of polyamorous relationships. I know you can love more than one person, and the idea of a threesome is kinda hot; however, girls are silly emotional little things and I know for one I could never partake in a threesome with a boyfriend and another girl because of the jealousy. I’d have to know absolutely for sure that the girl loved me much more than the boy. Sex has too much emotion involved. I could never, and fail to see how anyone else could, have sex with someone I didn’t love (also see below)
The only polyamorous long term relationship I could ever see working out is if three people loved each other equally. Completely equally, and I really don’t see that ever happening.
Okay. I’ve got off my high horse and swallowed my anger a bit, and read a little more. Here are some points that need taking into consideration
• Different sex drives
• View of sex: emotional/just fun
• Reason for marriage
• Need for a different type of gratification
• Jealousy
• Reason for making the relationship ‘open’
• Partner gender
( Different sex drives )
( View of sex )
( Reason for marriage )
( Need for a different type of sexual gratification )
( Jealousy )
( Reason for ‘openness’ )
( Partner gender )
Why am I getting angry about this? If I can see the risks and problems and no one I know is in an open marriage, what’s the problem?
Firstly this is about open marriages. Open relationships, while not being something I could handle, are a different kettle of fish, because there doesn’t have to be emotion and thus, there doesn’t have to be jealousy. Marriage on the other hand is about love and commitment. If you say (especially) early into your marriage I want to/I’ll let you sleep around, you’re basically saying “I married you for the ideal and the party. I’m breaking my promise”. Marriage to me is a promise and I don’t break promises.
Secondly, it’s not just about the couple. You might think my husband loves me, my partner loves me. I’m getting lots of sex and it’s great, but what about the other people involved? You can’t really have no jealousy about your husband sleeping with other women so you’re hurting and lying to yourself. The husband’s partner could want more, could be jealous too and maybe the husband’s promising things he has no intention of delivering. And your partner? What if he leaves and gets someone else but you still want to carry on – you’re potentially hurting a completely un related person or stirring trouble in their relationship.
I’ve been the other woman in a relationship – it’s not good and there’s no justification.
Women’s stupidity both in being the other woman or initiating/agreeing to openness just causes pain for other people. |
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| Blonde debates love |
[Jun. 19th, 2007|09:18 am] |
Just quickly because this needs to be explained due to the stupid inadequacy of the English language; love can describe a huge range of feelings.
I love unexpected free time, I love being in clubs and losing myself to good music, I can love a pet. Higher still I love each and everyone of my friends with all my heart, I love my family, I love the people I’ve been out with because you cannot spend that much time, emotion and lust with someone and not feel strongly for them.
This is ‘love’ (in varying degrees) and then there’s ‘in love’. In love is what you presume people mean when they say they love you. “I am in love with you, I want to be with you” you can’t spend your life with someone and you shouldn’t commit to anything strong without ‘in love’
I guess there’s something higher still – a complete and utter devotion. A feeling so strong nothing can take it away; not time, not age, not another person. I’m rather cynical about this because (obviously) I’ve never experienced it. Would like to think it’s possible though.
Right, now that’s cleared up – onwards! |
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| Blonde debates identity |
[May. 22nd, 2007|03:29 pm] |
Cultural, national and racial identity to be more specific. Now I’m British, and that's nothing to be proud of. More to the point I’m English, and that's a lot to be ashamed about.
However, living in China has forced my national identity to come into play. I am judged for not being Chinese and I, unfortunately, judge others for being Chinese. The culture difference is just too extreme. I am friends with a great number of lovely people I have met here who, asides from the language barrier, are no different whatsoever. I also can't help but note elsewhere the very 'special' fashion sense, the hypocritical prudeness of an over-populated nation, a rather xenophobic attitude (combined with 'WOW what the HELL is that?? click-whirr-gawp), an awful educational system and a very shallow attitude by some girls. This is not to say that I’m and my upbringing/culture is not without faults - like I stated, there is nothing enviable about me.
"When we belong to a group, we are likely to derive our sense of identity, at least in part, from that group. We also enhance the sense of identity by making comparisons with out-groups." "When abroad, especially in countries which have particularly different languages and cultures, we feel our nationality far more keenly than when we are at home. We will tend to band together in national groups, perhaps making comments about the strangeness of the natives."
In my mind this is all to do with culture and none to do with looks or race. My view point is stubbornly fixed though; I come from a very left wing family in a predominantly white middle class area. Anyone I met that wasn't white or was of mixed race was - if I even noticed - no different. My parents taught me that people are all exactly the same, and it's very hard to shake that.
( mike-the-token-black-guy )( I'm Irish, yeah my great great great grandmother was Irish )
Social identity theory
"* Categorization: We often put others (and ourselves) into categories. Labelling someone e.g. as a Muslim, a Turk or a Jew.
* Identification: We also associate with certain groups (our in-groups), which serves to bolster our self-esteem.
* Comparison: We compare our groups with other groups, seeing a favourable bias toward the group to which we belong."
( rambles )
nahh difficult! It’s much easier to take the stoner approach and say why can't we all get along!
For an interesting read I recommend 'Small Island' by Andrea Levy. ( synopsis )
http://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/social_identity.htm
http://www.answers.com/topic/social-identity |
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| Sex is not the enemy |
[May. 9th, 2007|08:54 pm] |
Facebooking, i came across this . I really shouldn't be surprised i know, but abstinance only sex education? Only in america...
I've had several sex ed talks in my school life, beginning when we far too young to find the idea remotely appealing. 'where babies come from' talks, just plain ikky when you're 8 or 9. They even when we were 11 (i think) told us that it was normal and natural to touch or stroke our down below areas and find the feeling nice. Ooh the shock and horror of it all. At secondary school came the STI talks and putting condoms on cucumber lesson (unfortunately i was at the dentist for this one). My only complaint was that they devided boys and girls sometimes for private girl/boy only chats. It should be important that the other sex knows about each other's body, though it did mean once a year we missed science when the people from tampax came in and the boys still had lessons.
Impacts of four title V, Section 510 Abstinance Education Program final report
Apparently in some schools in america they teach:
A Have as its exclusive purpose teaching the social, psychological, and health gains to be
realized by abstaining from sexual activity
B Teach abstinence from sexual activity outside marriage as the expected standard for all
school-age children
C Teach that abstinence from sexual activity is the only certain way to avoid out-of-wedlock
pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and other associated health problems
D Teach that a mutually faithful, monogamous relationship in the context of marriage is the
expected standard of sexual activity
E Teach that sexual activity outside the context of marriage is likely to have harmful
psychological and physical effects
F Teach that bearing children out of wedlock is likely to have harmful consequences for the
child, the child’s parents, and society
G Teach young people how to reject sexual advances and how alcohol and drug use increases
vulnerability to sexual advances
H Teach the importance of attaining self-sufficiency before engaging in sexual activity
WTF? This is conservative religious funded, of course.
1. People are going to have sex, regardless (or maybe, in spite of) being told that it's evil and wrong. If they're not properly informed of risks or safe(r) sex methods then you're just asking for trouble. If something is built up and surpressed then you're going to have a much younger age of people having sex and not knowing the risks. The age of concent is there for a reason, i don't think anyone is ready for sex before 15.
2. Marriage isn't for everyone. I know many people completely against the institution of marriage. Having children out of a stable two person relationship could have harmful consequences for the child but with one loving parent who educates their child well and has enough free time and will to be there for it then it's doubtful.
Also, you know my oppionons on marriage [hang on, this was the entry LJ ate. Nevermind.] Marriage kills sex. To not engage in sexual acts in your youth (and fertility peak if you're a girl) will mean missing out on so much, also, why would someone commit to spending the rest of their life with someone who they don't even know is sexually compatable. That's just silly. Plus sex for the first time hurts if you're a girl, and there's likely to be blood. Ooh ripped hymen pain on your honeymoon, yeah sure, that's worth waiting for.
Sex before marriage is not going to have harmful psychological effects. Emotional relationships mess you up, not physical sex. As for harmful physical effects, sex after marriage doesn't mean you're suddenly immune for STIs. MAGIC MARRIAGE IMMUNE SYSTEM DEFGENCE!
3.'Teach that a mutually faithful, monogamous relationship in the context of marriage is the
expected standard of sexual activity' - what about gay people, are they not allowed to have sex? No wait, this is the Catholic church, of course they're not. For me personally there's too much emotion involves in sex for it not to be mutually faithful, i'd have to love someone to have sex with them, but at the same time many people have multi-partener sexual acts. I don't think there's anything wrong with that as long as everyone knows what they're doing and wants to. Polyamerous(?) relationships are different too. If i was to be in love with a boy and a girl at the same time and the boy and girl both loved me back but also loved each other, i'd see nothing wrong with a three person relationship. As long as noone was loved any more or any less than the other.
4. 'Have as its exclusive purpose teaching the social, psychological, and health gains to be
realized by abstaining from sexual activity' Yeah, i gain so much socially from abstaining from sex.
Now abstinance is the only way to be completely risk free from pregnancy and STIs, but you can catch STI's from way more than penatrive sex. If someone with a coldsore goes down on someone else they can get herpes. Eww, and people are going to involve themselve in other sexual activities even if they restrain from sex, it would just be unnatural otherwise, you're fighting a very basic instinct. Romans were very up on virginity before marriage but they did a hell of a lot that wasn't penative sex.
From the facebook board: "They teach abstinence only in Texas. Texas also has the highest teen birth rates and teen std infection rates as a result. In general, virginity pledges only slow down a teenagers sexual activity by a few months. When they do become active they don't know how to use condoms properly, and as a result they aren't effective. Other than abstinence, condoms are the most effective way to protect yourself (if you use them properly)" and "a great deal of the country is now being taught "Abstinence Only" in place on comprehensive sex education as it is the only thing the Religious Right Lobbied Federal Gov't will fund in schools-i.e. any school that accepts federal funding now teaches children fallacies such as that condoms only work 80% of the time and that 50% of gay teens have HIV! These classes have also taken it upon themselves in some cases to even instruct on gender roles with fairy tales designed to teach girls to be submissive to men. Many classes culminate in promise ceremonies (this may be only at perochial schools) in which students put on rings and vow to abstain from sex until marriage. The result of these wildly misleading and backwards classes has been that kids are no longer using condoms-but are still having sex. In fact, oral and anal sex are on the rise among graduates of these classes, and it has been reported that 86% of students who take abstinence vows break them anyway"
These americans are crazy. |
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| Blonde debates the english language |
[Apr. 30th, 2007|04:24 pm] |
Whilst being in a different country, trying to teach English and attempting to explain (and work out for myself) grammar and reasons for word usage to an inquisitive Japanese housemate, the English language has become somewhat interesting to me.
Now English, as the userpic floating around here states, is the bad boy of languages, waiting in dark alleys to beat up and steal bits of others. As a set of isles we were invaded countless times. Romans, Celts, Angles, Saxons, Picts, Normans, Vikings… (not in chronological order) am I missing any? Therefore our language has become a hearty mix. This has not helped by bringing back words from our empire and people at various times trying to standardise it. Latin rules in a Germanic language does not comprehensible make.
( ”Other ) ( ”rules ) ( ”It’s ) |
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| Feels like i've spent my whole life waiting for trains... |
[Apr. 19th, 2007|09:40 am] |
The light starts as a small magnolia haze, a hint of an oval in the middle of a vast black space. Waking is never sudden, only that you’re not aware of the progression for most of it. It’s slow and gradual until you realise you’re in the process of awakening and then in an instant life slaps you fiercely. The light slowly spread and greyed, flickering until it filled my vision and I became aware of a necessity to focus. The sight was bright and artificial, full of noise and orange lighting. The coldness of the bench was seeping through my trousers and I felt the roughness of its rust and something unpleasantly malleable sticking to my back.
I peeled myself off from the back of the bench and looked around. It was crowded of course – it always is - ever changing waves waiting for their destination to wash onto the departure board. They would come, linger, sit, wait, watch and then finally leave before the next batch followed the same pattern, again and again, towards the polite queues of trains to take them away.
It feels like I’ve spent my whole life waiting for trains. |
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| a tiny piece of prose |
[Apr. 12th, 2007|10:20 am] |
I didn’t make a habit of being run over.
In fact, before today being hit by a car was a completely new experience for me; I was a being-knocked-down-on-the-street virgin if you’d will. There are certain things, however, that we simply take for granted without needing to experience them first hand – Like where you’re likely to wake up after said horrific event, for example. You simply don’t wake up in Paddington Station after being hit on a main road. If you find yourself waking up in a train station you know something must be wrong. |
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